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But nothing seems more crucial to me than teaching, training, mentoring and loving other human beings. I love getting to know them and trying to help them grapple with life and learn what their talents and passions are. I hope to support them in a way that enables them to find their purpose. I have a suggestion Lately, I have been immersed in Dr. Jordan Peterson's youtube channel on The Psychological Significance of the Biblical Stories, having been interested in psychology since my university days and currently attend Bible studies.
What are your areas of interest and thoughts on this? I encourage you to also invest in yourself! What can I say that hasn't already been said. Shocked is an understatement when I did the test, emphatically accurate! As you evolved with time, did you find happiness and a feeling of accomplishment? It is nice reading to all your comments and realizing I am not the only one. I am sorry to hear that you are really struggling. What gives you meaning? When my first child was 7 months old, I had a full time nanny take care of her, while I worked full time for 3 months. Therefore, I took on a part time position that effectively was a demotion.
Fast forward to today, I am still working part time. I just breathed a sigh of relief to find you all, as I'm relating with almost all of what has been said here. I have often felt so alone in how I view or carry out our homeschool due to my personality that it makes for some dark days and doubting. Some days there is fulfillment in knowing we're giving them the best we can. But, there are days when I feel the opposite for all parties invovled myself included! It has been helpful to read the last comment from Elisa about keeping things into perspective Thank you all for being open and honest.
I wish we could all have a facebook group together. Know that this thread has been an answer to prayer from frustration as I'm contemplating whether to continue homeschooling next year or not. Best wishes to you all in your endeavors, fellow INTJ women. Thanks for your suggestion NatD! Based on our personality types and the rarity of finding one of us in the general population it is safe to say that we believe ourselves to be odd because we do not encounter many people like ourselves. Thus based on our understanding of regular society we consider ourselves to be odd.
I had never encountered anyone quite like myself in 50 years, which caused me to think that I was unique until I discovered INTJ-A and its meaning. True to type but with a better understanding of how I fit into the overall scheme of things, I still consider myself to be blessed with a rare gift.
I fit all the INTJ descriptions, but I too am Christian and have valued raising my family and spending time with my kids. I also volunteer at church and in my community. Your pursuit of order is admirable, but don't take yourself too seriously! Order and lots of kids is close to impossible. Your best bet might be controlled chaos. It is very difficult to find alone time with kids and family commitments - I found that to be the most exhausting part of raising a family. Use your drive to raise your kids to be the people you want them to be, then give it over to God.
Knowing my personalitiy would have been such a confidence booster as a younger woman! Had a ton of kids. Had a sleeping baby on me as I read your comments. I have no income, which is a constant source of discouragement for me! I don't mean to be proud but looking back I know I could have been a doctor, scientist, anything. I love science and learning. My brother is an electrical engineer, mom a teacher, dad an engineer at Space Center.
Sometimes I think I've failed to become qualified to make money and sometimes I wonder if God has me exactly where I am because he values my time with my children more than a second income would benefit my family.
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I've kind of fallen into hippie medicine. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with my life still. I guess I'm doing it but feeling like I've got some fire burning to accomplish something more than educate my kids. Honestly, I feel like that's wildly important but much easier than people make it and that there's more I could be doing. No adivce for you Claire, but awesome to meet someone else with same passions and personality.
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Like yourself I am very family-oriented and spritual. Less "religious" than spiritual. Daily studies in the word. Perhaps, speculation based on the way that we think. Just try to enjoy the process of improving because there is always something to work on! I am a data analyst, and I love it! I could not homeschool, but I respect you for it. I would drive my children nuts and we would all be miserable. They are best taught in their wonderful school. We all do love learning, and share the love together. I was fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with them until they went to school.
I was so ready to rejoin the work force. While I was intimidated, when I went back to work I found my nitch. I would continue to focus on your children, until you feel they are ready for the next phase, then the work and the opportunities will come to you. God has a way of working things out for us. I decided to go back to school about a year ago to pursue computer programming. Would love any advice you have! I would love to pick your brain and learn how you got to where you are now in life. I am always looking for a new direction. I hope to talk to you.
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I am an INTJ and have always had artistic and musical gifts drawing, graphic design, piano, etc - I think it goes with the territory. However, I have not developed those talents to any significant degree. I love complex systems and organization and this career was a good match for me. I've been much happier working on my own, but I find writing a bit tedious at times. While rewarding in its own way, I don't find it mentally stimulating. Such an inordinate amount of time and energy!
Should you decide to return to the idea of fashion design, please fix the women's clothing. Functional pockets, comfort, and easy to care for are lacking in women's clothes. Hey Me, it turns out all these comments are actually you just as we suspected, or us rather. Heck I don't understand it all exactly either but that's besides the point. We keep returning to this website and agreeing with ourselves on how much we are like us.
Knowledge of the various types has changed my life as well. Personality Types was one of the missing puzzle piece s I've been looking for. Additionally, there is some debate on whether or not personalities are developed or if it is something we are all born with.
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I believe the latter. If personalities could be changed or edited, the world would be out of balance. Understanding personalities is especially valuable for me in understanding why people behave the way they do; especially with the knowledge of and acceptance that most won't understand me. This is okay; this is not his or her choice or mine and I don't need everyone to understand me. With best intentions in mind, I am learning what and when something should be shared and with who and most importantly who not to share with.
Some people are not capable of understanding and I do not mean this in a negative way. What is relevant is I know my role, whether others understand or not, and continue to edit the world around me, to my liking. When thinking about INTJ's in leadership roles, again I agree, I realize not everyone can be good at everything and I prefer to be controlling all things relevant and have to issues allowing someone else to present my ideas as their own.
Hopefully some will relate to this 'gift' we've been given. Kind of an inside joke of the perceived genius relative to the outside perspective, it's a "gift" alright I also seem quite sensitive to being controlled; this is not something that I don't like or prefer, this is something that I cannot allow, if I believe I can control it anyway.
I want to be 2, but I can't allow anyone or anything to control me. What does that make me Whether I want to accept this or not, this is not up to me. I can not change. Yes, I expect everyone else to change I very well agree that there is possible that I may have lost my damn mind, but again On another relatively similar note, I believe our existance-life-equation is actually quite balanced, regardless of all the drama, doom and gloom crap I see, read and hear.
I find quite interesting to ponder the needs we all have. This leads me to believe all things are perfect, from a cause and effect perspective, and it helps me to justify why things are they way they are and this is very comforting. I believe things are the way they are, because they have to be, otherwise they wouldn't be. I believe we are all equally important and all are required, even the perceivable 'crap of society'. With out them, we would be out of balance. I'm regularly impressed with how our physical laws apply to seemingly everything and I try to understand the 'net force' for all things.
Nothing happens without force and it's a bit of a trigger for me when I hear someone try to convince me that something they said or did was for no apparent reason. And the ever-ongoing follow up question of 'Why? Why are you trying to convince me of this? With this, now I can appreciate the lives some all people are required to live. I feel as if I should thank them, for playing the card they were dealt, because I'm happy I don't have to, but more importantly so my kids don't have to.
All people contribute equally to the required net force of life. I remind my kids and myself of this nearly each time we pass a homeless person begging for money. Historically, I almost never give, but now feel I should. This is what we all do and have in common. I need to admit that I am not much different and perfectly capable of making wrong choices that can lead me to undesirable places in life.
For now, I learn from everyone around me and say my thanks for setting an example of how not to live for anyone who will look their way. I often push people away from me for various reasons. However, when I analyze this as a problem in a system, I'm quite amazed on how non-random all events are and how I maybe missing the luster of life when I push people away. Everything that has ever happened was required to allow you to read my ramblings. I try to think about this when someone doesn't quite fit in my life, which is quite often. We as a species are possibly very immature and have only scratched the surface of a very small scratch on the surface of a very small scratch on the surface of the unknown.
I can easily imagine our understanding of anything is really an illusion, we understand pretty much nothing, we only compare. Up to any point in life regardless to how meaningless is appears, I like to reflect and realize that this moment is what everything that has ever happened in the past has lead to, thus far. On the topic of wealth, it is fascinating to me to realize how insignificant most things are.
Wealth seems to be, understandably, a worldwide goal common amongst the population, but it seems to be imaginary and potentially created to provide a net force for society to strive or improve or be controlled. In reality life has nothing to do with money and possessions and statuses and so one. Wealth is entirely to do with life's experiences and emotions, even for us robots.
Happiness is relative; it has a variable span, determined by the minimum and maximum happiness previously experienced, specific to the person. Life and all things are relative, infinite and nothing is random. Do with it what you may, whether I am right or wrong, you now know a fraction of my perspective. Yes so true a very typical response. All comments are moderated. Spammers will be fried and served on toast.
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Skip to main content. Primary tabs Overview Careers Relationships active tab Resources. This may inspire them to gather as many facts and self-help strategies as they can regarding human psychology and relationships. While there is certainly nothing wrong with doing so, it may not always remedy their predicament in the way they might expect. For one, INTJs with a history of relational difficulties can be prone to attribute those failures to psychological problems in their partners, thereby failing to see their own shortcomings.
While not necessarily their fault, this should comprise at least as much of their relational attention as trying to see and diagnose problems in their partners. To be fair, accurate self-evaluation can be a problem for all J-types, since their preferred mode of Judging Fe or Te is directed outwardly rather than inwardly. This is one reason why typology can be so useful for INTJs, as well as other types. One of the hallmarks of Fi is a desire to preserve and defend the uniqueness of the individual.
Related to a strong concern for the individual is the Fi desire to aid the weak, helpless, and marginalized of society. This is why IFPs, for instance, can often be found helping the homeless, working with children with special needs, protecting endangered species, etc. Once we add Fi into the mix, it is not hard to see how INTJs might be attracted, even if unconsciously, to rescuing and fixing those who seem needy or helpless.
The relationship then becomes a sort of psychotherapeutic forum, with the INTJ working to analyze, diagnose, and treat his wounded partner. It zeroes in on the unique features of the individual and grows deeply attached to those qualities. While INTJs may not experience the consistent strength of feeling that FP types do, they are nonetheless influenced by the less conscious workings of Fi, which helps inspire loyalty, love, and commitment.
This makes it a highly alluring function, powerful enough to inspire a fierce and protracted tug-of-war with the dominant function. Money also relates to status, another Se-related desire. They may, for instance, feel forced to perform unfulfilling work that fails to utilize their Ni-Te gifts. Or, they may struggle when the quality of a product or accuracy of information is compromised for the sake of marketability.
INTJs also hate having to act before their intuition has prompted them to do so. All of this can make the work life of INTJs rather miserable as they struggle to find a compromise between their Ni and Se concerns. Even the idea of compromise can be loathsome to INTJs, since their idealism and perfectionism are so pronounced.
This perfectionism tends to be most acute when they attempt to directly control Se outcomes, such as when making art, performing, or obsessing over money or status. When functioning healthily in Ni, however, they rarely fall into the obsessive grip of perfectionism. With that said, pairing with an SFP rarely brings lasting satisfaction to INTJs, since, as introverts, their wholeness must come from the inside out, rather than vice-versa.
INTJs may also happen upon other NJs in their work settings, especially in scientific, academic, or tech-related fields. Overall, ENTJs may be somewhat preferable, bringing a degree of typological variety to the relationship. They can simply be themselves and feel comfortable employing their normal modes of communication. And when this is combined with the natural power struggles of J pairings, such relationships may fail to get out of the starting gates. There are a few reasons for this.
Such pairings have a good balance of differences and similarities and, again, are less likely to struggle with issues pertaining to hurt feelings or emotional sensitivities. INTJs want a partner who can partake in lengthy and focused discussions.